Kinfolk - The Family Table as Social Practice
The Family Table as Social Practice
Originally, the family unit consisted of grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins; It was multigenerational. If a need presented itself, there were others available to step in and help. By the 1920s, the majority of American households were detached nuclear families. This shift in family structure has caused units to become individualistic and completely self-sufficient. Convenience, privacy, and mobility became more important than family loyalty.
Many people value the tradition of eating at the dinner table with their entire family. According to an article by Psychology Today, people connect over food. Inviting people to dinner creates an environment where you can connect and interact organically. It was a designated time to check in and interact with everyone in the household. Over time, we’ve lost those values, and consequently we’ve lost so many relationships within our families. In today's society, it’s rare to catch a family sharing a meal at their dining table, much less engage with each other while they do so. Family dinners make us more cohesive because everyone’s on the same page. The absence of the family table talk creates unhealthy habits and patterns in youth, which ultimately puts them at a disadvantage.
There are various contributors to the breakdown of “togetherness”. A drunk father who broke his family with drinking, verbal and physical abuse is symbolized in the broken glass table seating. Technology clutters our ability to truly engage one another during family meals. Those who sit on the perimeter away from the table represent those who have decided to abandon the practice altogether.
With that being said, how can we create family table talks in nontraditional ways? Kinfolk is a term that refers to the people who we consider family, regardless of blood relations. The people at the table don’t have to be limited to biological family, we can expand it to include friends, peers, etc. As we do that, we “build a family of friends” and this group becomes our support system. When you invite those people to have dinner with you, it strengthens the bond and helps establish a closer relationship.
Renee Michelle Biggs is a painter, sculptor, carver, and installation artist from Detroit, Michigan. She uses color and composition to create visually stunning 2D and 3D works. Her interdisciplinary practice focuses on medium and methodology.